Sunday, 5 August 2012

He and SHE SAYS YES I DO !!..


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Hello Everyone,

Ok, so am on a blog roll..YAY... be glad ohh... happy smiles.

This is it,  sometimes there are certain things we are just not told about marriages or its sacrifices. Some of us are left thinking it is what we experienced in courtship that we will experience in marriage. But in courtship most people are on their best behaviour to woo us and us to woo them. If you happen to be with someone that is real and opens up to us. superawesome...if you are not with such person, it not soo superawesome. Either way, nothing prepares you more than reality.. You begin to see traces of not soo superawesome in that (superawesome courtship) and sometimes you begin to notice  the superawesome in that (not so awesome courtship). DO you get it???

Well it means, some of us we grow to be ourselves with the person we love and cohabitate with whilst  some of  us might actually struggle to share our space and freedom despite the lengthy and great courtship. There is no fast rule. I think its important to  ANTICIPATE,  FACE REALTY AND  PREPARE MENTALLY all by the grace of GOD.

There is a saying I  know  "you truly know someone when you live with them".

Well to paint a realistic picture, that day you both say YES I DO. It means you are saying to all the anticipated and unanticipated situations that could possibly occur in marriage. Joblessness,  illness, inlaws., loss etc.

You are saying YES I DO, to the  annoying, funny, interesting, challenging, disgusting, uproar, sweet, romantic, irritating, jaw screeching, relaxing, comfortable, emotions running high, I  will die for you any day  moments that will appear in different circumstances.

You are saying YES I DO, to the real person, their ups, downs, happy, not so happy, moody, not so moody, exciting, not so exciting, gives attention, withdraws attention, wants to communicate, but doesn't want to,  understands it but sometimes clueless, listens but doesn't listen, keeps making mistakes, keeps making excuses etc moments.

BASICALLY,  WE are saying YES I DO, to EVERYTHING THAT COULD POSSIBLY ROCK AND ENHANCE THE MARRIAGE.

Its never easy to say YES I DO when we come face to face with reality. Its important that  the person we say YES I DO to,  are worth all the energy, efforts, time, stress, emotions,  pain, fear and LOVE.

P.S. I am not married oh and never have been but its amazing the ministration I get from the Holy Spiriee. I like to think one day I will have a marriage where I can discuss openly the dynamics of our relationships and commitment.I think its AMAZING to discuss openly about the expectations. I love marriage and I think its amazing that  God gave humans the ability,  for two people to desire to make  a decision to be with each other come rain and sunshine, to be good to each other, encourage each other, develop each other, fulfill purpose together etc.

Besides, I like to think with permission and agreement from Hubby, that we will use our marriage as a platform to educate and inform people about why we made the decision to say YES I DO, what we have come to learn and still learning about marriage etc.. I love learning and developing and I think as humans you can never get enough of it...

God is LOVE, and we should aim to love on ourselves and love others too.. Its can be hard sometimes but thank God for grace.. hehehe

xxxx


Saturday, 4 August 2012

Spur of the MOMENT......post.

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Hello Beautiful people,

Thank you for the wonderful comment on my last post. Its nice to feel the love..........HUGS.

 I specially welcome new followers and greetings to old followers.

As usual, I do random post on my fb and this is a copied version of what I wrote on there. xxxx



So  does it mean that once the HUBBY SAYS YES, he will not be attracted to another WOMAN EVER?

Likewise does it mean once wifey  says YES, she will not be attracted to another DUDE?

ahhhh u are living in mugu planet if that the case..

HUMANS emotions are  fleeting. We are dynamic in nature and  we are  product of our environment. It  means we are influenced by various factors be it family, religion, education, media etc.  We are generally unpredictable, and  the more time we spend time with  people on our level the more we take a liking to them.

 ATTRACTION is usually a process and it  sometimes  takes time to manifest.  ATTRACTION does not mean you LOVE THE PERSON.  It just means they tickle ur taste buds. In the case of married couple, ITS IMPORTANT TO RECOGNISE why you are attracted to someone else and DEAL WITH . Also communicate it to your spouse.

Attraction does not mean you have to leave your partner and go around cheating. IT MEANS DEALING WITH THE ISSUE, kill the  thoughts, renew your mind and avoid situations that will encourage awkwardness...

IS IT EASY.. HECK NO.. it cant be,  nothing is easy in this life jor... but NO MORE EXCUSES..... its not only a matter of binding the devil, it a matter of praying for wisdom and applying measures and boundaries.

God is love and love on yourself and others too.

P.S. You are welcome to add, oppose and add lol..xxxx

Thursday, 2 August 2012

Quick Post.

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Hellooooooooooooooooooooo Everybody,

I know, I know,  I have been terrible, no updates in like three weeks or more that is unlike me, most esp when I mentioned this year will have more regular posts.

I have missed blogging, blogsville family and I know some of us have missed me too (raises eyebrow).lol.

So here is me saying I AM SORRY for the long silence oh... NO VEX. PELE. HUGS AND MORE HUGS. Can you feel it?? well am giving you a warm, fresh hug. xxx

Thank you to all that came to check up on me.. me I felt important ohh. Simple Mee thank you my adopted Aunty for checking up on me always..LOVE..XXX

Quite a lot of things have happened really but my silence was mainly due to busy schedule.

 NEW THINGS that has happened to me so far:

I got a new job and as ever am grateful to God and to all that gave me encouragement in my last post, am grateful.. xxx. (I join my faith with as many as are believing God for one thing or the other, you will have every reason to rejoice and enjoy the blessing). AMEN.

I crushed on someone... YES OHH.. Looks like am finally moving on.. azonto remix....lol... I went for a wedding in London...yelz oh. it was fun. So I met an old school friend (well not really a friend, it was a dude that was very polite and we were  both civil to each other in school  but never kept in touch). I was surprised to see him actually.  I stayed at my friend's Jelony  apartment, her  flatmate a DUDE, invited couple of his friends over. So that was how I saw him. and he was very nice (I dont remeber him being very nice nice like that  but then again he was alot reserved then and he is still now). Anyway, I came out of the room to chuck some ice-cream package away. I was planning on avoiding the dudes right? (I can be antisocial sometimes, coversface). As I stepped out to the kitchen, I stepped into the dude. He was like (hey, with my name pronounced in  one strong BRITISH accent), anyhoo, I didnt remeber his, so I called him tobi or somethimg. But we gave other some warrrrrmmmmm hug..lol. #renewmind#.  We talked for a bit and caught up, I decided to stay after all, sha we all had a really good conversation. In the end, it was time to say goodbye, another warm HUG. I cant believe none of us didn't suggest to stay in touch.. or keep in touch. Cut long story short, we didn't keep in touch  and the feelings quickly withered away (which is good for me in a way cos ermmm i can get emotionally attached really quickly, although I can try conceal it). In fact, my mind will be consumed by that person mehn..lol. I hate it and I love it). He was cute and sweet. and very very very polite. (You can tell the kind  of traits I like  in a guy lol). #

Side note: ermm there is time for everything..but I must  say am happy I crushed on someone else, feels like freedom in a way and there is hope lol..

Oh oh, I almost forgot to mention. am on twitter ohh.lol. I know my adopted Aunty is not soo keen. So far its just there, still finding my way through it. But care to follow me: @Daughterofherking  
YOU ARE WELCOME.

There are more, but my time is up  i.e. time to go back to uni work. so will let you ladies and gentlemen know next time.

Thanks for reading.

P.S. if you haven't seen me on your blog or I haven't  left a comment, trust that I will be  leaving some once I have plenty of time.lol.

God is love, Love yourself and on others too.

                             On the train, on my way to the wedding.... random pose.lol.
                                  On my way to  an event in my Church.....loves.