Sunday, 5 August 2012

He and SHE SAYS YES I DO !!..


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Hello Everyone,

Ok, so am on a blog roll..YAY... be glad ohh... happy smiles.

This is it,  sometimes there are certain things we are just not told about marriages or its sacrifices. Some of us are left thinking it is what we experienced in courtship that we will experience in marriage. But in courtship most people are on their best behaviour to woo us and us to woo them. If you happen to be with someone that is real and opens up to us. superawesome...if you are not with such person, it not soo superawesome. Either way, nothing prepares you more than reality.. You begin to see traces of not soo superawesome in that (superawesome courtship) and sometimes you begin to notice  the superawesome in that (not so awesome courtship). DO you get it???

Well it means, some of us we grow to be ourselves with the person we love and cohabitate with whilst  some of  us might actually struggle to share our space and freedom despite the lengthy and great courtship. There is no fast rule. I think its important to  ANTICIPATE,  FACE REALTY AND  PREPARE MENTALLY all by the grace of GOD.

There is a saying I  know  "you truly know someone when you live with them".

Well to paint a realistic picture, that day you both say YES I DO. It means you are saying to all the anticipated and unanticipated situations that could possibly occur in marriage. Joblessness,  illness, inlaws., loss etc.

You are saying YES I DO, to the  annoying, funny, interesting, challenging, disgusting, uproar, sweet, romantic, irritating, jaw screeching, relaxing, comfortable, emotions running high, I  will die for you any day  moments that will appear in different circumstances.

You are saying YES I DO, to the real person, their ups, downs, happy, not so happy, moody, not so moody, exciting, not so exciting, gives attention, withdraws attention, wants to communicate, but doesn't want to,  understands it but sometimes clueless, listens but doesn't listen, keeps making mistakes, keeps making excuses etc moments.

BASICALLY,  WE are saying YES I DO, to EVERYTHING THAT COULD POSSIBLY ROCK AND ENHANCE THE MARRIAGE.

Its never easy to say YES I DO when we come face to face with reality. Its important that  the person we say YES I DO to,  are worth all the energy, efforts, time, stress, emotions,  pain, fear and LOVE.

P.S. I am not married oh and never have been but its amazing the ministration I get from the Holy Spiriee. I like to think one day I will have a marriage where I can discuss openly the dynamics of our relationships and commitment.I think its AMAZING to discuss openly about the expectations. I love marriage and I think its amazing that  God gave humans the ability,  for two people to desire to make  a decision to be with each other come rain and sunshine, to be good to each other, encourage each other, develop each other, fulfill purpose together etc.

Besides, I like to think with permission and agreement from Hubby, that we will use our marriage as a platform to educate and inform people about why we made the decision to say YES I DO, what we have come to learn and still learning about marriage etc.. I love learning and developing and I think as humans you can never get enough of it...

God is LOVE, and we should aim to love on ourselves and love others too.. Its can be hard sometimes but thank God for grace.. hehehe

xxxx


12 comments:

  1. You really should take courses in counselling :)

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    1. lol. thanks hun...i probably will.. hmm..

      thanks for reading love.xxoxoxo

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  2. I love your take on this topic.
    Recently, I find myself thinking alot about the power of " I do" precisely the vows. You know, how its not a joke and you have to mean it, I Cor 13 comes into play for me and I just wonder how we as christians can practice that chapter selflessly. I guess it comes with coming with a deeper understanding of what marriage and the vow truly means to God and creation..

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    1. Hey UG.... thank u love.

      Yes it does... you are so right. Marriage I believe is amazing if you are with the right person for you...

      thanks for reading hun...

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  3. What more can i add?....like i talk before...you stay with odede {old woman}.
    You are good at talking to people, and i pray i will be there to felicitate with you when you do get married and begin to share your experience with us.
    Take care.

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    1. lol.... ohh so that what it means. i didnt ohh.. lol.. but thanks. I live with JESUS. lol. My mum didnt even teach me this much around the area.

      AMEN. You will be there in JESUS NAME and YOU WILL BE INVITED with other lovely bloggers too. I pray I get to share my experiences openly too and not hold anything back (Well apart from security issues nah). ..

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  4. This is a really beautiful piece. Lol... At least we all know who is dying to get married. Lol.

    Btw, this is Eddie from TheBadSharpGuy blog. Thanks for stopping by earlier.

    http//:9ja-dejavu.blogspot.com

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    1. lool... oh noo u stalked me in return...... am not dying ohh but am looking forward to getting married at some point....lol.

      thanks for visiting and commenting... xoxoxo

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    2. Okay, i like throw in a few point DHK, oops been off blogville like ages.Marriage truely is cylical like all the stuffs you mentioned.It's a serious venture but i dont want to sound too businesslike, but if you open up bussiness and customers ain't showing up, will that make you close up business.certainly "no". It's a close call and it sadddens me when i see great couples say they heading for the "D". I can say marriage is sweet but like every other venture we need "God" grace in it. No matter how sweet any relatioship is, storms will come but what matters is the navigator, i mean who is the captain of your boat.We all need someone who knows about the terrain to steer the ships of our families. "I do" is a convenant that has lots of implications. My comment is getting longer than your write up. lol(miss this blog)

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    3. ahahahahah where have u been??? its been forever... wow.. nice to see u visit and comment. YAY....

      The blog missed ur comment and contribution too..

      thanks for stopping by. Your contribution makes sense and I think a realty check is needed, esp marriage misconceptions... anyway God is good and he will continue to help us...

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  5. You already have a fairy tale assumption of your marriage.

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  6. Great piece of art work, well done

    www.whitedrum.com

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