Tuesday, 20 November 2012

In the Case of.....

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Hello lovers of life, destiny and beyond,

Ok, so I will make this post as quickish and short in comparison to the last one. I am truly learning to compose snappy/straight to the point post that is easy to read and understand. Pardon the longgggg posts in the past. Well done for reading it too.. kudos. lol.

Thank you to all that read my post/ glance through and scroll down and don’t bother reading lol. To all that read and comment. I appreciate. xxx

Quick intro into one of my weird personality and attitudes, I am very peculiar without a doubt.  I can’t place my finger on it but I can be very forceful in what I stand for and don’t stand for. However, am learning to change that method of approach or should I say be of less of a force and know where to direct and redirect the energy from within lol..(meditating as of now lol).

 There are times when people or should I say, I hear things and my immediate reaction is cut off, leave it and DELETE. Speaking of HARSH, it instances where people will talk about/mourn about a friend, colleague or a dude that they find annoying, rude or unpleasant and still stick with them. Whilst my immediate reaction is CUT THEM OFF, No excuses JUST CUT THEM OFF, that not always the solution. I realised sometime it doesn't not work that way all the time. Sometimes when people talk about the unpleasant  things  is cos they need to offload what on their mind and it’s your prerogative to ask them what they intent to do about the situation Rather being ah, cut them off, delete and denounce lol, etc etc. I keep quiet ask the person what they think the solution is and allow them to figure it out. I learnt doing things this way for once saves me a) Headache b) fuming/frustration c) understanding and able to gauge when to react and not react at all. If anything the person in question probably knows what to do about the situation.  I allow myself to sense where their line of reasoning is before I offer opinions and ideas if at all I need to do that (keep mute and nod).I also consider that life is a learning process and experiences is the ONLY teacher and character building  is the evidence.

Needless to say, my solution on how I deal with some issues is not something that is or will be applicable to other people solutions. Some people think deleting someone that is of no use to them/contributing  nather (nothing) to their life is considered rude whilst for me it so sane after all you and I both know we are of no use to each other so why the pretence. If we happen to be the in the future, Great, if we don’t GREAT. Either way, life is good.

It dawned on me (through meditation, *loves*) that forcing our ways on other people is not always the greatest step to take in helping. We should listen and search for cues that tells us whether or not the person in question is asking for advice or willing to take on the offer, if at all they are ready to do what it takes.

How do you approach a situation when you know you are right and the other person just decides to stick to their guns yet they come and mourn/complain? Or simply mourn/complain and you know nothing you say will do anything cos their mind is pretty much made up.   It can’t be easy though but prayer is key.

Thanks for reading.

Meanwhile, learning Chinese lang Mandarin is going well but kia my pronunciation  (according my sis is bad).lol.

Ni ri li ya in Mandarin... Guess which country? lol
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JESUS IS LORD, KING and a friend. xxx

24 comments:

  1. Somewhere in the Bible, there's a verse that admonishes that we should not cast our pearls before swines. If someone comes to me, and I know that their minds are already made up, why should I bother or waste my energy hitting against a hard place? Dunno if this is harsh, but honestly, I would not bother to say anything.

    DOHK, well done on the Chinese, lol.

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    1. thanks..lol... oo I remember the verse and thanks for the comment.

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  2. I try to only give advise when someone specifically asks and even then, I prefer to lead them through the pros and cons of the situation, or get them to appreciate the decision they already made and how to stick to it.

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    1. I believe that way is fair and gives the person an opportunity to decide...

      makes sense. xxxx

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  3. I try to keep an open mind. the person may be seeing it from another perspective so i guess i just listen and try to understand where the person is coming from then we can share ideas............depends on the kind of person too

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    1. is true important to study the person too. xxxx

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  4. I try to listen and see things from the other angle, however if it concerns persons or issues that I have learnt a hard lesson from I don’t waste my time listening to “nada”

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  5. Keep quiet and be looking at the person. If you feel so strongly about the issue, then pray for the person.

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    1. lol...... just be looking like zombie. no whala..

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  6. Hmn, it certainly depends on who is asking but what is do is in line with what Myne wrote.

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    1. Toinnnnnnnnnnnnn..... u show face.. thank u. xxxx

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  7. I thought you said it will be short and quickish huh?..ahahhaa...you just can't help yourself huh?....off to read your 'short' post :D

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    1. My thoughts exactly, LOL. This post was not snappish.

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    2. Oh no.... lool. i really thot it was.. covers face..

      but i TRY sha ah ah compare to the last post oo. lool.

      xxxxx

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  8. Ok, read it...and my first thought was, hope she won't CUT ME OFF' when i annoy her oo...oh in btw i like the new pic of you.
    Now to the issue at hand...my answer to your question lies in my post I&I....http://thenitty-grittytalesofahousewife.blogspot.com/2012/11/i-and-i.html ..........tell them what they want to hear because they already know the truth, but just need someone to 'support' their decision so that they won't feel 'alone' and have someone to blame if it boomerang..shikenah!

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    1. Thanks for the compliments... happy smiles.. xxxxx

      i love you three musssshhh sha to cut you off oo. xxxx dont ever forget that. xxx

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    2. re: cut off.. ahh no oo when we are mature adults nah.. we go trash it out via COMMUNICATION... e never reach that stage..lol.. xxxxxx

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  9. LOL @ simplymee's 2nd comment. The truth is that sometimes people want you to lie to them and agree with them even when they know they are wrong. If the person is worth the stress (everybody should be but not everybody can be) say what you feel is right to say but please don't cut people off like that. Be patient hunnie.

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    1. Yes, I am learning too.
      thanks for commenting...

      xxxx

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  10. I must say I'm enjoying ur blog. Tracked or rather stalked u down here from 'bedding n beyond'. U got a new visitor!
    www.thatssewnaija.blogspot.com

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    1. Smilessssss...

      thanks love.. glad you tracked me o.

      welcome to DOHK waving with love...xx

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  11. Chei Simplymee. When I read that on your blog, I couldn't help laughing. By God's grace, we can be a little more patient with those kind of people. Nice blog,I am following.

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    1. Thanks eya, Yep simply mee is gifted with wisdom... loves..

      Welcome to DOHK waving love and enthusiasm.. xxx

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