Friday, 29 June 2012

BITTERNESS: ITS AN EMOTIONAL DISEASE.

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I pray all will be with you and your love/d ones. AMEN.

Quick update: My azonto is not that bad, well am trying, still working on it  sha.. I cant stop lol@ one comment I saw on Linda Ikeji's blog. Commentator "your future is dancing azonto with the devil". so random.. lool. that saying the devil dances azonto too..funny(dont doubt it ohh).

I am officially addicted to blogs.. I NEED TO STOP. MY eyes oh my eyes..

Back to the post.

You see the thing about bitterness is, its like a disease and with a disease (depending on its type) slowly erodes all the good and healthy part(if not treated early) eventually every parts is polluted if not permanently destroyed. Well that what bitterness is about, its like its starts of tiny and grows bigger and bigger and eventually saps every forms of positivity out of a person. Bitterness can occur from different aspects/circumstances  of life, it could be betrayal, distrust, to pain, disappointments, hurt, anger etc. Basically, the aforementioned factors and more can trigger  sadness, which can result to bitterness and an eventually an emtional disease. The emotional disease is fed and grows bigger, larger and eventually takes over the mind of the person. Before you know,  the person intentions is now eroded with bitterness  and  anything they do or say has an underlying tone of NEGATIVITY.

Bitterness can lead to a person being constantly jealous, envious, self pity, arrogant, constantly moaning/complaining, constantly moody, always finding faults in everything and I mean EVERYTHING, and can sometime be viewed as ENEMIES OF PROGRESS. This is what bitterness can lead to (if not treated early and properly). You know what happens with anyone that has a deep cut or a wound (again if not treated early and properly), it begins to smell and people will begin to turn their heads and cover their noses. This is how bitterness is,  people will immediately notice it in  your attitude which is a reflection of your mindset, that you are negative and you sometimes enjoy or derive some sort of pleasure  from "pouring sand in people's garri". You are never objective  although you convince you are, but your actions speaks otherwise, because your intentions is eroded with bitterness.  Sometimes,  when you aim to critique, you end up destroying if not hating the work of the other person. You don't see the good in anything but all the wrongs and the bad, even in  that you don't aim to develop the other person but to destroy their work and confidence. A bitter person is not fun to be with only around the  people that are as bitter as they are so therefore, they are able to feed each other's bitterness and the diseases gets bigger and more powerful.

The funny thing is: A bitter person sometimes do not see that their actions  are NEGATIVE and damaging, in fact if anything they like to convince themselves that its not their  fault, its the others person issues not theirs etc. This action exempts them to deal with their demons and confront the issues eating them up.


Eventually, the bitter person is forgotten by people and people simply ignore them and not listen to what they have to say because "its NEGATIVE". The thing is: alot of us don't know we are bitter about situations  we simply suppress things and bury them. You cant bury your demons forever they will grow fatter and bigger and come and get you even more. P.S  DONT be scared of your demons, if you are, channel that fear into positive thinking.

Dealing with bitterness is essential and the earlier the better. Like a disease needs healing, medicine, attention and proper care. So does a person with bitterness, you need to take a break and treat that wound, that emotional wound that has been there for so long, nobody sees it but you know what it is.  Whatever the situation was and is and still is YOU HAVE TO GET YOUR HEALING and you need it NOW. If you don't want to be the man or woman people run away from 5-20yrs down the line,  I  will encourage  if not admonish you to invest in emotional cleansing and healing. Pls lets stop BLAMING PEOPLE, blame is a massive contributor to BITTERNESS, inability to see your wrongs or understand the situation that has occurred. Basically, the situation  should be seen as an opportunity to learn grow and essentially build yourself up mentally, spiritually and emotionally(you never know, you could find yourself improving someone else's life too). You have get up and shake off the dark cloudiness, the insecurities you are battling with has to GO.  YOU need to learn to live a life of positivity and hang around people that have positive energy and outlook on life.  Is it easy? Nope. Nothing in life is easy or come easy, if it comes easy it will not last long.. trust me on this.

The truth, we all have our low moments and high moments and just because some of us dealt with it better and faster does not mean we had it good all along. Nobody has it good (including  celebraties) even the animals have their good and bad experiences,  so you are not the only one. One more thing, its ok to mourn any pain you are feeling or situation but what is not good is to stay in that situation and never move on or fail to do something positive about it. In addition, whatever you think you are going through, or have been through pls be rest assured people have gone  through it even in double portions and came out strong so all hope is not lost. Doctor JESUS is always happy to help and support your healing process. It can be tough to deal with our innermost pain i.e. the cause of the bitterness but once we let go of that baggage, things starts to look up because we will begin to notice and give attention to the good things happening.

If anyone has a prayer point concerning this issue and You would like me to join you in faith.  You are welcome to email me @: daughterofherking@yahoo.co.uk. Pls strictly prayers only or advice (not an expert yet).. eheheh.

God is love, love yourself and on others too.

Do I sound like some pastor mrs..lol.. am joking ohh. I want to be  a motivational speaker  and a counselor. I think its about time, I exercise my qualities/talents.  I love encouraging people, such a nice thing to speak positivity and life into someone's life. Applying the word from one of my fav books Proverbs 18 vs 21 (google it)

P.S.  apologies for the white lines.. it was not copied. ..

New jam btw... she is soo cool and I like her personality..




8 comments:

  1. Bitterness is very insidious, and it eats deep emotionally and I have read research that it could manifest physically by destroying the health. Thanks for sharing this post, very motivational :)

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    1. Yes it does ohh.. u are right Myne... thank you for reading love..

      aww am glad its motivational.. xxxx

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  2. Great post, I think the world needs to read this, we would be a peaceful society if people weren't bitter. Happy weekend to you

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    1. AWwwww thank u honey bun.. Yep, the world needs to be less bitter. I am glad u found it useful hun.. happy wknd..

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  3. Motivational speaker?...so true! you sabi sweet-talk, that i no fit vex for you. Just has you made me remove my verification word! :D
    Yes o! bitterness and grudge go hand in hand and can affect ones health.....jealousy is the main cause of bitterness which unfortunately is common among friends, relations and neighbours.
    Weldone.

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    1. lool@ simply me ohh.... am finished ohh with laughter.. soo i sabi sweet talk abi..lol.. flatter me well ohh.. I hope it well received..lol..

      YAY.. U removed it... xx.. happy is me ohh.

      u are so right that spirit of jealousy.. ewww.

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  4. Wonderful post. I can see the counsellor/motivational thing working out jere. You try :)

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    1. awwwwww thank U for the COMMENT LOVE.. Yay.. am happy its coming thru.. xxx thanks for coming.

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