Saturday, 31 March 2012

The Test Chapter 3

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Hello Children lol (chorus hello aunty.. lol, raise ur pinky finger if you stayed up watching "tales  by moon light" loll).

Ok, on a serious note. Hello People of Blogsville, I hope we are all doing great.

Can I just say am beaming with smile due to all the lovely feedback and visits I have received from my new and old followers. Thank you so much and I genuinely appreciate each one of you. (big smiles).

I do apologise for not updating  sooner,  chia, its been busy busy busy ohh, as in I had to take the day off today sha i.e. went on leave. lol.

Back to the much anticipated continuation of Kemi and Kayode's journey.

Kemi: I believe our relationship was amazing, we started off with a good solid foundation what I meant by that is we communicated a lot and discussed areas of what our goals were, how we played an impact or could play an impact in each other's life. We talked about backgrounds, upbringing, past relationships, life experiences, we prayed together, studied the word etc. What I particularly liked during our early days of courtship was the direction and vision Kayode had for us and our future together. He wanted  us to be a transparent couple and God fearing with the idea of none is perfect but mistakes is all about discovery and development. Which for me was significant has it helped me to relax and be myself and around him and be alot more open about things. We were quite close and we had a lot open discussions.  As our relationship took shape, the more time we spent together the more we knew about each other habits, likes, dislikes etc.

In particular, Kayode does not like cooking with salt, in fact this is one bizzare situation I had to deal with. Basically, he would prefer to cook without and sprinkle some if need be on his food if at all he felt the need to. This attitude all stemmed up from his Mum who felt it was healthier to eat less salt or have none at all. When he was much younger i.e a toddler she did try to use salt to build immune system etc but the older all her children got i.e. Kayode's siblings the more she fed them less salt. For instance, she would cook rice and not put any salt and only use salt to boil the meat to kill bacteria and use its stock to cook the stew. In fact she went on to make a her own organic maggi and ingredients etc. In a nutshell, Kayode tends to stir away from cooked food that contained salt, he would much prefer one where he is able to dictate the amount of salt that should be in the food. Which I found annoying at the time because the food  I ended up cooking with little salt or maggi practically turned out tasteless I felt.

I mean the first time he tasted my food, he smiled through out saying it was nice but deep down he would have preferred other wise. Although, we talked about his selective ideas on foods, i didn't not know it was this bad in my opinion. For a while, I would get upset when he says oh he would wait till he get to his house to eat because he felt the salt or maggi I used was too excessive. I was usually mortified trying to defend myself that the food tasted like food good food to be precise.  Few months into our courtship we had to address this issue and we came to a compromise. That all the food I cooked will contain  salt but minimal one only because he is eating out of it. Funny right, when I tasted his food it actually was not that bad although the natural ingredient he used were helpful and tasted fresh. This was us and how the journey of discovery began, the more we talked, the more we knew about each other.

I started driving after two attempts at passing my test, it was fun to own my vehicle as I felt more independent not that am saying I was not beforehand. But this time, it was my car and it was not ohhhh am getting a lift with KK although I still do. KK is that sort of person you would call "push the button kind of person", he knows how to push my button alot or maybe I should say I allow him to get to me so much,  I react each time. He is so unpredictable yet predcitable i.e. you never know when he plans on doing things, he does things out of the blue. In a nutshell, he can be very annoying and he is spontaneous.  There was this particular time, I had to run an  errand for someone and I had promised the person that I would be on time. It  was during  this time KK said he wanted help that his car was acting up and he needed a lift to work. I remeber responding "Honeysuckle, you know I have to run errands that morning, I can only give you a lift on one condition if you wake up really early in the morning and I will drop you early". This was our agreement. So that why I was annoyed and then angry that if KK knew our arrangement why would he  not  respond to me pressing the bell, calling his phone no response "ahh to say I was begining to get irritated was  an understatement. I waited for around 5mins and I thought if I do not get in my car now, I would be late . As I was about to reverse out of the estate, I looked into my rear-mirror and left mirror and guess who I saw running down. KK, with a bunch of colour full flowers and break fast. He wanted to surprise me but he ran behind schedule more like the whole timing  didn not work out as the delivery man was late and there was a long queue at Starbucks. I stopped the car and he came right next to my car window, "breathing profusely" with my face looking really angry.

KK: Babi mii, omo toh dun, omo toh fine, omo sexy, omo valuable, omo sweet, am sorry. These are for you.

Kemi: (still frowning)  am I suppose to be happy and jump up down?

KK: Yep, (chuckles) am sorry, I know that face very well, its not a happy one, but this was suppose to be well planned and things just didn't go according to plan.
You were suppose to knock, and I was suppose to spoil you rotten today by brining you nice flowers to brighten up your day and possibly your office hence the flowers.  am joking now. I wanted to treat you today just for 5mins so you would have a smile all day  but it did not work as planned. So I am sorry, can I drop of these flowers  for my delicous honeybunny eventhough she looks so upset and angry right now, she still looks even yummier in the mornnings. Goodness!!  how do this Kemi.

Kemi: KK you know you are just buying your way out of this, with all the sweet words and lovely comments. But am vexing for you big time, am running out of time and am going.

KK: Ok, I guess I will go back home and drive myself to work with the flowers and pancakes breakfast I got you.

Kemi: No oh. drop them I know am upset but (secrecetly smiling) I want my flowers and my pankies oh...

We resolved our issues and we carried on as normal, again he does funny things and I have had to learn to be patient and not take things emotional because KK sees the fun in everything and the more serious I got, the more he would do strange things so I decided to calm down a bit.

On this particular day, it was my birthday  and I really was not in the mood for  anything. My cousin from naij had cover to the UK and she persuaded me to do something . I succumbed  and we decided  three of us, KK, myself and her would go a for dinner. KK would always let the waitresses know he does not want salt in his food or would indicate the amount of salt he wanted, he is a very fussy eater. Back to my birthday, my cousin had insitited I wore this particular dress she got me as a birthday present which came in baby blue colour, she wanted my make-up done by a professional which at the time I thought she hired. She was making a big fuss which I thought was a bit too much but I did not want to sound ungrateful so I felt well we are like sisters maybe she is trying to make up for the last 3 years for the birthdays she missed. I went along with the flow and she told me she wanted to pick something up and she would meet myself and KK at the restuarant. I did not think much of it, KK came around and his jaw dropped at the sight of me more like he looked very pleased with what he saw and would not stop complimenting me. Well, let just say I could not hide my expressions as I was beaming from my way out  into the car to the destination.

KK and I arrived at this place that looked familiar but I did not think much of it, he mentioned earlier that someone wanted him to drop some parcels off. I did not ask any questions so I was so surprised when he said he wanted me to come in  with him. At first I was really reluctant and I really didn't want to go in. I eventually stepped out of the car and went inside with him and all I could hear was "SURPRISE". Awww he had organised a surprise birthday party in fact himself and my cousin with couple of others from Church and friends from work were there. It was really emotional, as I was not expecting it,whilst everyone was all merry and having a laugh, KK was trying to get all our attention and it was weird I was thinking what is he doing and what is he upto this time.

I was with a couple of friends when KK said I have some surprise for you and I was like what is it, that was when my parents both of them came in and to say I was shocked is an understatement. I was incredibly ecstactic and  happy and shocked, I have not seen them both in a long while and it completely made by birthday so special that KK invivted my parents over. The suprises were not over, it turned out 2 of my brothers that were in Canada were also there, I was really happy and my pastor, Uncle, Aunties etc were all there. He really made the effort and ensured I had a great 25th and I could not ask for a better present. It was then, that he wanted all of our attention again and took on stage.

KK: Hello everyone, I would like to say a massive THANK YOU to all that made to ADEKEMI's birthday, am eternally grateful for the support and love. God bless you all abundantly.

Well, I have something special to say and I am a bit shy but I will get on with it. Adekemi, "my rising star, my incredible credible lady".


KK: I guess everyone now knows what I call you, nevermind. He went on to say, Adekemi Oluwatemitayo Morinke Ireti Babalola Samuel. I am eternally grateful to God for your existence and your purpose on earth. I am even more grateful that our paths crossed and I got to know more about you. I am exceptionally grateful that I have found courage to proceed to ask you  out. Now, I would like to take it a step further, to say this  in front of the people that mean the most to you. If I am worthy enough to  be the man that will father  your children, protect you,  help you and provide for you. Your presence in my life is a genuine blessing and I am happy to say I am myself around you and I feel always  encouraged to keep improving and developing.

Please would you do me the honour of being my wife, my best friend and my helper.

At this point, KK was kneeling right next to Kemi.

Kemi: (I cant believe you) Beaming with smile and pride and affection.

KK:  Sugar plum plum, am still waiting for an answer.

Kemi: its a yes, ofcourse its a Yes.

It was a such a delighful, memorable and incredible day that I felt so loved and so valued it was unreal.

The preparations for the wedding began, we had planned we would have the white wedding in the UK and have the traditional in Nigeria. It was lovely and we included each other in all the details and preparation and it was absoulty awesome. I did not see any signs of negativity from KK and I made sure I did not pressure him or be too demanding even though I knew it was my special day I made sure it was not centered around me only but instead it was "our special day" I was really looking forward to being Mrs Oluwakayode Korede I was so happy that our home would be joyful despite any storms we will come across, I was sure that we will come  out stronger.

We set the date for 6months after the engagemnt for the white wedding.

On our wedding day, it was a bright blue sky and it was awesome, it felt good and I felt good and I was ready so ready every fibre within me was ready. I remember driving down in the classic vintage rolls royce with my dad by side feeling proud and happy. We got to the Church and for some reason I was kept in the car but my Dad was requested. It was apparent KK was running late or some sort and I had to wait in the room until he gets to church. I was not worried I thought he was probably doing a surprise theme again as he was prone to do.

I stood in the alter for what seemed like ages and it seemed KK was not coming. I kept on saying someone should call him. They said his phone was switched off and I insisted they tried his land line.. I did not understand how all his grooms men and best man was there and KK was not. I  kept on asking were you not all in the hotel, what happened, where did he go, what is wrong. I was asking all sorts of questions and crying at the same time. That was when my sister aka cousin woke me up to tell me I was dreaming again.

Its  had been  months and I still had  nightmares everyday, what seemed like a great day turned out to be a grey day.Ever since, it felt grey, I was not myself, I could not eat, I had lost a lot of weight, I had to take a leave of absence from for a whole year from work. I could not function, I had lost my sanity. My parents decided to move me out of my old apartment into a new place. My cousin and Mum had to move in with me to care for me because I could not live on my own. My parents made a decision not to  me take to Nigeria because they felt the environment will not be positive for me. Besides, I was under medications and I needed to stay in a place where am most  likely would be receive the attention and care I could possibly get i.e. therapy. I saw a therapist once a week but it did not help. I was just in a dark place with a lot of questions. I had a lot of emotions as well, I did not who to direct my anger to, at times it would be at myself, at my destiny, at God, pastor, family, life, everything and at KK. But I had no answers, I had questions but no answers. I lost the will to live, literally felt this life was simply pointless. I have never felt destroyed in my life until that moment, it was awful.

Fast forward two years after the whole KK episode and I am finding my feet again. I made  a decision not to be a victim I did know where the strength came from but I knew people were interceding for me spiritually. I simply woke up one random morning and thought I can't live like this i.e as if am dead when am alive, I have to get on with it and make this  situation better and that was how journey to discovery and healing began and I tell it is one of the toughest, most challenging aspect of my life because I had to face it all, the pain, hurt, betray, anger I had to face each one step by step and begin to eliminate their power and influence over my life. It was not all my strength, the little prayers I said each day, each time, second were helping me too.  I knew my family and some of my friends were already affected by the situation and I could not bear the fact they all felt sorry and powerless and trying their absolute best to bring me back to my old self. I had to face my demons and face the world, I could not deny the shame or pain but instead embrace it but not make it my own. Horrible things happen and I cannot afford to remain a victim, it was about  time I took power and took charge of my life, and it was in no way shape or form easy.

Within the two years, I focused on building myself again and my career, I did not want to make my life about KK anymore or even  questions what went wrong and did not. The deed is done I just need to get on with life, and make it the best I can.

Four years of working hard, praying for healing and support, I was finally getting there, I started my own registered pharmacy  in the  UK with aims of going back Nigeria to set up a baby branch. I started to get ambitious again, I wanted to provide quality drugs that improved the quality of patients in Nigeria and sell them at affordable prices. My main focus was making sure that rich and the poor could access the medications under certain allowances and financial support from the local government would help with that.

Before I could embark on this journey, I needed to get a lot of things sorted out first in the UK and that took time. In  the midst of those I had written up  a business plan, secured sponsorship from governors and private investors. It was a hectic time for me so when one our friends was getting married and I was invited I did not say pass like I would have in the past as I  needed a break to relax and wanted to live again.

It was at her wedding that things took a different turn just when I thought I had moved on and everything was working out well. I could not believe who I saw at the reception in fact the nerve that he had to approach  me was indescribable. I did not realise when my hand landed on his face that was all I could do. I also did not realise when  he went on his knees and I gave another two. I must say it was so loud, heads were turned. It was at this point I came to reality when one of our friends came to get me and I was shaking, shaking like a jelly,. To make matter worse he was following me begging, saying he was sorry and he just wanted to talk to me and everything. I could not face him, I was too distraught, too angry, he begged my friend to have a word with and he was on his knees doing this. She said she was not going anywhere  that if he had anything to say he had to say right in her face. "We don't trust you, was a her response".

P.S. I would have to continue THE FINAL series next time. My eyes are soo dowry...

Thank you for reading.

God is love, love on yourself and others.

9 comments:

  1. Wow, what a story. I want to know what happened, please..

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    1. Awwww my sweet aunty Myne.. thank u for reading...

      The next series will be coming soon.

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  2. You are good at writing stories, that many atimes, i mistake it for you! ..ahahaha....yes o. lets us know what happens when you are up to it. I give you kudos, to write no be moi-moi ooo!

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    1. MY blog mammi... hugggsss for the compliment.
      lol... @ mistaking the stories for me.

      Thank u again, I will let u know asap...

      xxx

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  3. Don't stop jor! Oya next pls. As in, sharp sharp! You want to gime hypertension ba?

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    1. lol... am glad u are hooked oh....

      I will post the rest real soon...

      Thanks for reading... (wide grin)

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  4. WHAT???? HOW DARE YOU STOP NOw? The story just took me in, like wow wow wow..That slap ehn

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    1. lol... i had too my eyes was really tired oh. in fact the grammatical errors in the posts are too much..But i will finish it sharp sharp.. lol.

      Thanks for reading.

      xx

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  5. Randomly came accross ur blog.Nice and touching story!will defo be keepin up.weldone.

    http://blossom-you.blogspot.co.uk

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